Getting caught up in the willy-willy of romance and finding true love is no doubt stirring and admirable. The dating period of your relationship is one of the most beautiful phases of your life when anything and everything seems just picture-perfect and rosy.
But marriage also conveys a certain level of seriousness that should not be taken lightly. Often, when we’re dating a marriage material, we tend to overlook some important areas of our lives that need attention before we commit ourselves. So before deciding to tie the knot, look beyond the attraction and blossom and make a note of these tips to help create a more promising happily ever after.
1. Setting Unrealistic Expectations will only disappoint you
So often we hear singles saying- “Once I get married, things will eventually change for the better.” By ‘things’, they mostly refer to undefined expectations they set for their life partner. It is important to understand that marriage is not a panacea for your relationship issues. Getting married will not automatically influence your personal character overnight. Starting from day one, you have got to be a responsible, desiring and committed human being before you say “I do” in order to take the relationship earnestly. Live your life as a single individual before you try to know someone else.
2.People Will change
If you look at your own life in the past ten years, you would know what I mean here. People, including you yourself, will eventually change down the line, owing to life’s circumstances, unfavourable or favourable events and other influences. The key is to know ahead of time that you will have to adjust to an evolving spouse and an evolving you, irrespective of what life throws at you. Don’t take for granted that you will be able to bend each other’s minds down the road, as per your own likings.
3. Don’t try to Sell yourself
This is true especially when you meet a prospective partner in the first meeting itself. It is human nature to try to present your best self when meeting someone for the first time and it takes time for patterns of your true personality to emerge. But make sure you don’t deceive the other person of your true nature, just as you wouldn’t want to be cheated by someone else.
4. Consider other’s Opinion but don’t get totally swayed by them
It’s always a good idea to spend a moment and think about how your loved ones will view him or her. Explicitly ask others their opinion and with an open mind, looking out for warning signs you may have missed in the first place.
5. Are you Game for it?
The secret to a happy marriage is the union of two happy and healthy people who are ready to sail through the challenges of a new life, as it comes. In order to truly understand a person, it is always advisable to take time, engage in meaningful talks, and spend some lone time in different settings. Doing so will help you know if you both are compatible. Some common traits to look out for are:
- Sense of humour
- Intellectual level
- Outlook on food
- Emotional mindset
- Lifestyle habits
- Energy levels
- Career goals
- Areas of recreational interests
One thing is for sure, a marriage starts long before saying “I do”. So be cautious, steer clear of commitment by spending sufficient quality time in person, in many different situations and kick-start this beautiful journey on a memorable note!